Cyn has found it offensive to refer to the female partner on a relationship as “the wife of....”.  I am in complete agreement with her thoughts on this.  It reminds me of calls that used to arrive at my domicile, when the former wife of C Willson would answer the phone.  “How yas doin Missus, is the boss there”, was often the voice on the other end. 

This was usually followed by taking the phone receiver, smacking it against the wall twice, and then responding with, “yer talking to her, Buckwheat!” This was often followed by a dry chuckle on the other end, and something like “Eh, Missus, you must be one of them equal rights gals.” Followed by herself responding, “why the hell would I want to be equal to a man?”

(sigh), she was a beautiful, intelligent and articulate woman.  She was also a redhead.